Toilet training is a developmental milestone that typically begins around the age of two, though the timeline and experience can vary significantly for each child. In practice, the process can be complex, and it is important to recognize the signs that indicate your child is ready to begin this transition as well as to anticipate any potential challenges along the way.
How do I know when my child is ready?
Recognizing the signs that your child is ready to begin this journey can make the process smoother for both of you. Here are some key indicators that it may be time to start toilet training:
Pulling Down Diapers or Pull-Ups: One of the earliest signs that a child is ready for potty training is when they begin to pull at their diaper or pull-up. This behavior shows that they are becoming more aware of their body and the need for a change, indicating an understanding of wetness or discomfort.
Curiosity About the Toilet: If your child starts showing interest in the toilet or expresses curiosity about how it works, it’s a good sign they are ready to explore toilet training. They may observe family members, siblings or peers at school using the toilet, and some may even want to try it themselves. This curiosity demonstrates a willingness to learn.
Staying Dry for Longer Periods: When a child starts staying dry for extended periods, this suggests that they have better control over their bladder. This milestone is an important sign that their physical development is aligning with the readiness for toilet training.
Recognizing these signs helps ensure a more positive and less stressful experience for both parents and children. Be patient and supportive as your child takes this important step toward independence.
What are the barriers I should be aware of?
Toilet training can be a challenging milestone for both parents and children, with several barriers that can slow the process.
Fear and anxiety: Many children are initially afraid of the toilet, whether it’s the loud flushing sound, the size of the bowl, or simply the unfamiliarity of the experience. This fear can create resistance, making it difficult for them to feel comfortable with the change.
Refusal to go: Some children may refuse to use the toilet, whether due to a desire for control or a reluctance to leave the comfort of diapers or the activity they are enjoying. This can be frustrating, as it may feel like a power struggle, but it is often part of the child's developmental process.
Sensory: Some children may have heightened sensitivity to the sound of flushing, the feel of toilet paper, or the texture of the toilet seat. These sensory issues can make the act of using the toilet overwhelming or unpleasant, leading to avoidance.
How do I effectively communicate with my child's teacher?
When it comes to communication about toilet training with your child’s teacher, it is best to be as open and proactive as possible. Parents should share with teachers the cues that their child is displaying when it comes to using the toilet and different support tactics that are being used in the home. Some key things to consider when communicating to your child’s teacher about toilet training are:
How do they express to you that they need to use the toilet – will they use words to tell their teacher it’s time to use the toilet? Do they wiggle or go stand in a particular area of the room?
How do they react when they have an accident – does your child continue playing or do they get embarrassed when they realize they have had an accident?
Are they nervous about anything when it comes to using the toilet – some children may have some hesitation with sitting on the toilet because they are apprehensive about the flusher or sitting on the toilet seat.
How often would you like your child to try using the toilet – some children are able to verbally express to their teachers that they need to go, but others can get wrapped up in play that they may need a reminder to go and try on the toilet.
What can your child do independently and what do they need assistance with when toileting – are they able to pull their own pants/underwear up and down or will they need support with this?
It is important to make sure that teachers and parents are able to connect regarding your child’s day and their progress with using the toilet during the day; creating a communication plan together will help immensely with this. At BISC-LP, our teachers keep a toileting log in the classroom and communicate with parents through the Brightwheel app about any attempts, accidents, and successes throughout the day. When parents and teachers work together and have clear communication, the stress of toilet training can be greatly reduced; everyone ends up working together to help the children feel successful and proud of their latest accomplishment!
Amy Parker, Pre-Nursery Education Director
Courtney Slauter, Pre-Nursery Business Director
Before we can even use language to communicate it is play that supports young children to build connection and create social links. Learn more about this in our latest teacher's blog by Jennifer Partington, Reception Leader and Teacher.
