As educators and parents, we strive to create language-rich environments for our children, constantly seeking ways to expand their vocabulary and develop their communication skills. With so much advice out there—and increasing pressure on parents—it can feel overwhelming to determine the best strategies for supporting this critical aspect of development.
At BISC-LP, we deeply value early speech, language, and communication (SLC) development. These skills are not only central to the academic curriculum but are also foundational for children’s social and emotional growth. Research shows that strong communication skills can positively impact behavior, peer interactions, and future academic success. Recognizing their importance, our Pre-Nursery, Nursery, and Reception staff have completed the Elklan Speech, Language, and Communication training over the past two years, earning us the Elklan ‘Communication Friendly Setting’ Accreditation.
While the accreditation highlights our commitment to this work, it’s the practical strategies we’ve adopted that are most impactful for children’s development. Parents are often encouraged to model language, expose children to rich vocabulary through storytelling, use gestures, and engage in turn-taking conversations. However, one lesser-known yet powerful technique has transformed our approach: thinking time.
What Is Thinking Time?
Learning language is a complex process for young children. They must decipher the meaning behind the words we say, search their memory for an appropriate response, and then organize their thoughts into coherent language. This cognitive juggling act takes time.
By pausing for 10 seconds during conversations, we give children the opportunity to process what they’ve heard and formulate their response. This simple strategy can yield remarkable results.
Evidence and Impact
Studies support the importance of pausing during conversations with young children. Research from the Journal of Child Language indicates that children given adequate time to respond are more likely to produce longer, more complex utterances. These pauses allow children to process language more deeply, which strengthens their understanding and confidence in using words.
In practice, we’ve observed firsthand the impact of thinking time in the classroom. When we pause for 10 seconds after asking a question or making a comment, children consistently exceed our expectations. They show a greater ability to understand and respond meaningfully. On the occasions when a child still struggles to respond, the pause helps us recognize the need to simplify our language or rephrase the question.
A Personal Lesson
I was reminded of this strategy in my own home. Watching a video of myself interacting with my daughter last summer, I cringed at how I peppered her with questions, quickly rephrasing or repeating myself when she didn’t respond immediately. Since then, I’ve consciously practiced the 10-second rule, often counting silently in my head! The results have been astonishing.
By pausing, I’ve discovered how much my daughter understands and how beautifully she can articulate her thoughts when given time. This technique has not only supported her language development but also strengthened our connection. She feels heard and understood, and our interactions are more relaxed and meaningful.
The same is true for the children I work with at school. The moment a child realizes you’re giving them space to think, their confidence grows. It’s a simple yet profound way to say, “I see you, and I value what you have to say.”
Final Thoughts
The 10-second rule is a game-changer for fostering language development. Whether you’re engaging in dinner table conversations, reading a bedtime story, or discussing their day at school, give your child the gift of time. You may be amazed at what they can do—and the bond you’ll build in the process.
Danielle Williams
Learning Resource Teacher & Student Community Director
Further Information:
Suskind, D. L. (2015). Thirty million words: Building a child's brain. Dutton.
Access our Speech, Language and Communication parent forum delivered in May 2024 for more information on strategies used to develop SLC skills.
Speech and Language Development Brochure from ‘Pathways.org’
Journal of Child Language, a peer-reviewed academic journal published by Cambridge University Press.
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