Developing Independence in Upper KS2

As children grow up, it's important for them to develop independence, especially as they approach the end of primary/elementary school. Encouraging independence in children not only helps them to become self-reliant, which is a life-long skill, but it also develops their confidence and self-esteem. This week we will explore three ways to help children become more independent as they grow.

1. Allow children to make decisions.

One of the best ways to help your child develop independence is by allowing them to make their own decisions. This doesn't mean that they make all decisions on their own, but by giving them choices we can allow them to have some control. For example, we can let them choose what they want to wear or what they want to have for breakfast - offering two or three choices if need be. When children make decisions, it helps them to feel empowered and more in control of their lives. In school, we often provide voice and choice to the students over their learning, for example, we offer a variety of ways the students can present their ideas. It is important to remind children there are some areas of life they cannot control such as other people’s actions; however, they can be in control of decisions they make themselves. This skill will enable them to take ownership of their decisions as they move throughout their education and personal life.

2. Encourage children to take responsibility.

Another way to help your child develop independence is by encouraging them to take responsibility. This means giving them tasks that they can handle on their own, such as setting the table for dinner or making their bed in the morning. When children have responsibilities, they learn to take ownership of their actions, and this again builds confidence. At school, we encourage the students to think ahead, for example before getting ready for a lesson they should consider what they may need for the duration of the lesson.

Another great way to build responsibility is to explore different ways for your child to take note of upcoming events in and outside of school; they could use an agenda/diary, look at the family calendar, have a notebook etc. While reviewing upcoming events, take time to ask your child what they may need to prepare and by when. For example, if they have an art project due by next week, what do they need to do to ensure it is ready in time? Support them in creating a plan. Encouraging children to think for themselves will help with time management skills as well as developing responsibility.

3. Teach children problem solving skills

Problem-solving is another essential skill that every child should learn. We can help children develop problem-solving skills by encouraging them to think critically and creatively. For example, by asking them to come up with solutions to a problem or challenge that they are facing. When we teach children how to solve problems, we are preparing them for the challenges they will face in the future. At school, we encourage children to think through different solutions, weighing up the pros and cons of each before deciding on the best route. With an adult’s guidance, we can develop skills that allow children to solve problems in an appropriate way themselves.

As a parent or teacher, it's important to encourage children to become independent as they grow. We can do this by allowing them to make decisions, encouraging them to take responsibility, and teaching them problem-solving skills. When children develop independence, they become more self-reliant, confident, and better equipped to handle the challenges that life throws their way.

Katie Miles

Year 6 Teacher